Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and how to Heal from Narcissistic Relationships (Toxic Relationship) part-2 of 2

 

What you will suffer to be in the Narcissistic Relationship (Toxic Relationship)

Being in a relationship with a narcissist can have a number of negative effects on a person, including:


Mental health issues

Narcissistic abuse can cause emotional trauma that can lead to anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Low self-esteem
Narcissistic abuse can cause feelings of worthlessness and shame, and can make people lose confidence.

Moodiness
It's common to experience anger toward the abuser, which can be accompanied by mood swings, irritability, or flat affect.

Dependence
Narcissistic behavior can undermine a person's confidence or their ability to live independently, which can result in people staying in abusive relationships.

Other effects of being in a narcissistic relationship include:

Relationship difficulties
Problems at work or school
Other personality disorders
An eating disorder called anorexia
Physical health problems
Drug or alcohol misuse
Suicidal thoughts or behavior

The way Narcissist treat the person feels like they don't really want you around.

When you are with the Narcissist it makes you feel upset, anxious jealous and uneasy it brings out the worst of you.

Narcissist don't understand how you felt which makes you not to talk anymore.

Why Narcissistic Marriage Fails? 

Biggest reason why Narcissistic Marriage Fails because Narcissist never accepts the fact that they are married to you. They never act married, they never behaved married, they never think they are married. They always live a double life. Nobody is more single then a married Narcissist, and then as the issues arise they show resistance they do not accept the problems they are creating. They do not take responsibility, they do not do well with compromise, they are not okay with certain boundaries that married people have to follow. They go out and flirt, they go out and try to get as many sources of supply as possible without honoring the fact that they have to be loyal to you. In their mind they have all the permission to do whatever they want to because that marriage was nothing but a show.

Coming out from Narcissistic Relationship is not easy

 

Literary during the heal process it literally feels like you are betraying yourself. When you have this trauma bond from the love bombing phase in the relationship part of what solidifies that bond is that you thought you established with this other person this mutual respect that you are never going to give up on each other. You thought you found your soulmate, you thought you found your person that you were gonna be with forever and you were like I am never giving up on you and they say the same thing to you, you probably mean it but to them they don't, they don't actually know what that means unless they choose to heal themselves which one out of 100 narcissists do. They will never know what true love is unfortunately but to you, you probably meant it, and so then as their relationship progress obviously the abuse starts and you are still at this point where you try to get back to that love bombing phase and that felt so good and you already said I am never giving up on you. So once the relationships ends you are stuck with all if this aftermath of abuse you still have that trauma bond and you are still at that mindset of I am not giving up on you because that's part of who you are that's part of why the narcissist are attracted to you because you are an extreme giver and there there's an extreme taker and you still have that mindset of I am not giving up on you and to do anything different from that you would feel like you are betrayed yourself because you are not the type of person to give up. You are a loyal, loving person. You are not the type of person to give up on somebody, especially somebody you love, but in the process of healing from a narcissistic relationship you have to do something that you swore to who you thought was your soulmate. You have to do something that you swore you were never gonna do. You have to give up. You have to become the darkness that swore that you were never going to be you have to give up on the relationship, you have to let the past die, and you have to let it go. And that is way easier said than done, because it feels like you are betraying who you are but let me tell you something you are not what you are doing if you are saying no to them and no to the abuse and yes yourself and you are choosing to love yourself and not to go through that abuse. And that is brave and courageous and commendable, and means that you are strong. It's not weakness means you are incredibly strong.

Now you are Moved Forward but Narcissist won't let you live in peace why?

Divorce isn't the end of Narcissistic Abuse because it worst from that points onwards here's why

Divorce means many things in this context. Divorce means unmasking of the Narcissist. Divorce means biggest Narcissistic injury ever. Divorce could also mean exposure of the Narcissist. All of this happens in combination what could you expect from the Narcissist? If they abused you without all of this happening throughout the relationship, what are they going to do now on?


In truth and reality they become worse why post Narcissistic abuse or post divorce Narcissistic abuse is a real thing. They try to defeat you in the court. They try to take away everything in whatever way the can. They try to alienate you from your children. They try to smear campaign and destroy your reputation. They try to isolate further because they can't control you directly anymore.

Narcissist sabotages your relationship with your children

This is why Narcissist sabotages your relationship with your children. A Narcissist doesn't want you to be close to your children because it threatens their control over your attention and ability's to prioritize their needs. They needs all eyes on them and when you focus on your children, it makes them feel jealous.

Narcissist view their children as extensions of themselves and believe only they should have absolute control over them. Also they know if you have close relationship with your children and you won't be easy to target as you have a source of love and support outside of the relationship with them. A Narcissist also attempts to undermine your relationship with your children by disparaging you in front of them, making false accusations about your parenting or even attempting to turn your children against you because that enables them to alienate you, diminish your voice and destroy your status in their eyes.

Narcissist will use your own child against you. 

They will hold your child hostage. They will say to you because you haven't given me this I am gonna strict the amount of time to see your child or worse they will say you are not gonna see your child. They know that this is the dagger to your heart and this is plained wicked. Another way they use your child is to train up your child to become mini Narcissist. You will know this because suddenly your child becomes disagreeable, challenges your role and what you do. Another way is that they will use your child as a messenger. Tell your father/mother this, your child becomes go between. They will use inappropriate language in front of your child. They will tell your child too much information about what is going on between two of you way beyond your Childs capacity.   

How to Deal with a Narcissist 

Dealing with a narcissist can be challenging, but here are some strategies that may help:

1. Set Boundaries: Clearly define what behaviors you will not tolerate. Be consistent in enforcing these boundaries.

2. Stay Calm: Keep your emotions in check. Narcissists often thrive on emotional reactions, so staying composed can help you maintain control.

3. Limit Engagement: Avoid getting drawn into their drama. Responding minimally can reduce their power over you.

4. Focus on Facts: When discussing issues, stick to objective facts rather than emotional appeals. This can help keep the conversation grounded.

5. Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist who can provide perspective and encouragement.

6. Practice Self-Care: Prioritize your mental and emotional health. Engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation can help you cope.

7. Know When to Walk Away: Sometimes, the best option is to distance yourself from the relationship if it becomes too toxic.

Remember, it's important to prioritize your well-being.

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship

Healing is not only possible but essential for regaining your identity and emotional health. Here are steps to guide you on this journey:

Acknowledge Your Experience: 

Recognize that your feelings and experiences are valid. Journaling can be a helpful way to process emotions.


Educate Yourself:

Understanding narcissism and its effects can demystify your experiences. Books, articles, and online resources can provide clarity.


Establish Boundaries: 

If you’re still in contact with your narcissistic partner, set clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. This might include limiting communication or avoiding certain topics.


Seek Support: 

Surround yourself with understanding friends and family. Consider joining support groups where you can share experiences with others who have faced similar challenges.


Therapy:

A mental health professional can offer valuable insights and coping strategies. Therapy can help you rebuild self-esteem and learn healthier relationship dynamics.


Practice Self-Care:

Engage in activities that nourish your spirit, whether it's exercise, meditation, creative outlets, or spending time in nature. Prioritize your own needs and well-being.


Reflect and Rebuild:

Take time to reflect on what you’ve learned about yourself through this experience. Use this knowledge to set intentions for future relationships and to recognize red flags early on.


Embrace Your Journey: 

Healing is not linear. Allow yourself to feel a range of emotions and remember that it’s okay to take things one step at a time.

Moving Forward

Emerging from a narcissistic relationship can feel daunting, but it also opens the door to a more authentic and fulfilling life. By prioritizing your healing and embracing your worth, you can cultivate healthier relationships and create a life that reflects your true self. Remember, you are not defined by your past, but by how you choose to rise from it.

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