Overview
is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence, they are not sure of their self-worth and are easily upset by the slightest criticism.
A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial matters. People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they're not given the special favors or admiration that they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships troubled and unfulfilling, and other people may not enjoy being around them.
Narcissism is characterized by an excessive sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. It exists on a spectrum, from mild self-centeredness to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), a diagnosable mental health condition.
Key Traits of Narcissism:
Need for Admiration: They seek constant validation and praise, often requiring others to recognize their achievements.
Lack of Empathy: A significant characteristic is their inability to empathize with the feelings or needs of others, leading to manipulative behaviors.
Entitlement: Narcissists may expect special treatment and become angry or frustrated when they don't receive it.
Exploitation of Others: They often use others to meet their own needs, disregarding the feelings of those they manipulate.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be deeply draining and emotionally damaging. Here are some common effects:
Loss of Identity: Over time, partners may lose their sense of self, as their needs and desires take a backseat to the narcissist's demands.
Increased Anxiety and Depression: The instability and unpredictability of the relationship can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and depression.
Isolation: Narcissists often isolate their partners from friends and family, making it difficult to seek support.
They don't wanna see you succeed, but they will do a damn good job making you think they do
They don't care of your success or your feelings, but they will show up they will be there for you when it's convenient for them or makes it look good.
Not only they exaggerate everything they lie about pretty much everything. They live in Dululu Land
They really don't care how you feel but don't make them feel that way they are the victim
For Family you have to love them now matter how toxic they are
They will never apologize to their actions to anybody it's your fault they reacted that way
Relationships built on trust, trust doesn't simply mean having confidence that they aren't going to cheat, it means I trust that this person cares about how I feel loved valued and prioritized that they have my best interest in mind. I can rely on them when I am in pains. Keep it in Mind everyone is relying somebody sometime but that not the word reliable means, reliable means consistency, if you can only trust that someone will show up for you occasionally and the other times they're gonna turn against you by calling you names or disrespecting or invalidating or neglecting you that's not a trustworthy person.
A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial matters. People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they're not given the special favors or admiration that they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships troubled and unfulfilling, and other people may not enjoy being around them.
What is Narcissism?
Narcissism is characterized by an excessive sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. It exists on a spectrum, from mild self-centeredness to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), a diagnosable mental health condition.
Key Traits of Narcissism:
Grandiosity: Narcissists often have an inflated sense of self and may believe they are superior to others.
Need for Admiration: They seek constant validation and praise, often requiring others to recognize their achievements.
Lack of Empathy: A significant characteristic is their inability to empathize with the feelings or needs of others, leading to manipulative behaviors.
Entitlement: Narcissists may expect special treatment and become angry or frustrated when they don't receive it.
Exploitation of Others: They often use others to meet their own needs, disregarding the feelings of those they manipulate.
The Impact of Narcissism on Relationships
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be deeply draining and emotionally damaging. Here are some common effects:
Emotional Abuse: Narcissists often engage in manipulative tactics such as gaslighting, leading their partners to question their own reality and feelings.
Loss of Identity: Over time, partners may lose their sense of self, as their needs and desires take a backseat to the narcissist's demands.
Increased Anxiety and Depression: The instability and unpredictability of the relationship can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and depression.
Isolation: Narcissists often isolate their partners from friends and family, making it difficult to seek support.
How To know if the person is Narcissist
They will make you think they are the best person ever then they are gonna flip the script.
How can anything be their fault when it always yours
Everything will be on their terms but they behave as they pleaseThey don't wanna see you succeed, but they will do a damn good job making you think they do
They don't care of your success or your feelings, but they will show up they will be there for you when it's convenient for them or makes it look good.
Not only they exaggerate everything they lie about pretty much everything. They live in Dululu Land
They really don't care how you feel but don't make them feel that way they are the victim
For Family you have to love them now matter how toxic they are
They will never apologize to their actions to anybody it's your fault they reacted that way
Are you a Narcissist ?
Your partner ever called you a Narcissist or said you were acting like one?
Do your partner dismiss your feelings often?
Do they tell you that you are too needy?
Do they tend to think about themselves more than others?
Do they really care about your desires and dreams or hurts or does that stuff not really cross their mind?
And during the fights are they consistently invalidating your feelings or experience telling you stop making a bid deal about nothing.
Are they escalating the conflict?
Are they defensive or counter blaming or they actually trying to listen and understand your concern?
Are they saying your feelings are not my problems ?
And lastly do you feel a little scared to set boundaries because you feel like one it would not work anyways because they would not respect it and two it would lead to another fight so you just try not to rock the boat?
If above are the conditions with your partner there is a good news and a bad news....
Bad news is this relationship is not going to work.
And the good news is You are Not a Narcissist.
Because...
A true Narcissist doesn't care about sacrificing for their partner so if you genuinely care about changing any of your behavior to have a better relationship with them you are not a Narcissist.
If you are fighting with the person all the time and you are pulling away because you don't trust your partner anymore it means you are a human who is in an unfulfilling relationship desperately trying to get their needs for closeness and connection met in the wrong ways or with the wrong person
Relationships built on trust, trust doesn't simply mean having confidence that they aren't going to cheat, it means I trust that this person cares about how I feel loved valued and prioritized that they have my best interest in mind. I can rely on them when I am in pains. Keep it in Mind everyone is relying somebody sometime but that not the word reliable means, reliable means consistency, if you can only trust that someone will show up for you occasionally and the other times they're gonna turn against you by calling you names or disrespecting or invalidating or neglecting you that's not a trustworthy person.
If a Narcissist is saying you are complaining Sure you are complaining because your basic needs are being ignored and you have been conditioned to believe that your need to be valued and prioritize and respected mutually in a relationship is asking for too much and that was wrong. You are not asking for too much by needing to feel safe emotionally and physically around your partner. You are not asking for too much by needing closeness and connection from someone who says that I love you.
You anger is trying to protect you, wake up this is not fair, you are been mistreated that is why you are pulling away because your body is trying to protect itself. It's normal to pull away from unsafe situations
You will never be good enough
Their will be no sense of partnership within the marriage. Theirs a dynamic of a Narcissist putting themselves up high on a pedestal what that essentially means even for a spouse is that you are below.
It will be all about her feelings and your feelings will not matter. They are not considered. They are not part of their equations for a Narcissist
Competetiveness over collaboration, because it's as if that Narcissist wants to win himself/herself.
Appearance. Very little energy will be given from a Narcissist to be put in to the marriage in terms of growing and developing an actually healthy thriving relationship. No energy will be put into that, where the energy will be put is in the appearance of having a good relationship
A Narcissistic person who doesn't listen does not belong in your life. A person who doesn't take correction from you, doesn't take instructions from you, doesn't take directions from you is dangerous. That person is condescending and arrogant. They thinks they doing you a favor by being in a relationship with you. They thinks they are better than you and they deserves to be with someone who's better than you, richer than you, more successful then you. That person is disrespectful, always arguing with you, always creating unnecessary drama giving you no peace because they wants to prove a point. That person is unfaithful, ungreatful, disloyal and treacherous. They will betray you, humiliate you, abandon you for another person. Stop trying to change them, that person will ruin you. Run when you still can.
How Narcissist treats their partners
You will never be good enough
Their will be no sense of partnership within the marriage. Theirs a dynamic of a Narcissist putting themselves up high on a pedestal what that essentially means even for a spouse is that you are below.
It will be all about her feelings and your feelings will not matter. They are not considered. They are not part of their equations for a Narcissist
Competetiveness over collaboration, because it's as if that Narcissist wants to win himself/herself.
Appearance. Very little energy will be given from a Narcissist to be put in to the marriage in terms of growing and developing an actually healthy thriving relationship. No energy will be put into that, where the energy will be put is in the appearance of having a good relationship
A Narcissist does not belong in your life
A Narcissistic person who doesn't listen does not belong in your life. A person who doesn't take correction from you, doesn't take instructions from you, doesn't take directions from you is dangerous. That person is condescending and arrogant. They thinks they doing you a favor by being in a relationship with you. They thinks they are better than you and they deserves to be with someone who's better than you, richer than you, more successful then you. That person is disrespectful, always arguing with you, always creating unnecessary drama giving you no peace because they wants to prove a point. That person is unfaithful, ungreatful, disloyal and treacherous. They will betray you, humiliate you, abandon you for another person. Stop trying to change them, that person will ruin you. Run when you still can.
